The Season of ‘No’

The Season of ‘No’

“We don’t swim in the toilet!” No.

“Don’t feed your breakfast to the dog!” No.

“Don’t eat MY breakfast!” No.

“Don’t pee on the floor!” No.

Whew! You guessed it: these are some commonly overheard phrases in my home. Life with a toddler- what a season! Some days I feel like all I do is utter the word ‘no’ to her in one way or another. It’s a frustration to constantly speak it, but I can, in fact, accurately imagine that it’s frustrating to be on the receiving end of that word as well.

But why do I tell her no, or forbid her from doing things? Is it because I’m a big ol’ bully who just wants to be boss? Of course not. I don’t let her splash in the toilet because, germs. I don’t let her feed the dog because she needs the fuel herself. I don’t let her steal my food because, well, some things are meant for Mom. And I don’t let her pee on the floor because other people need to use that part of the house, too.

Hmm. Sounds like some of the reasons God may tell us ‘no’. Sometimes things are bad for us. Some decisions take away something we need. Some things are simply not meant for us, and some bad choices make messes for other people.

God is compassionate. Despite how it feels, and despite our limited understanding, He doesn’t ever tell us ‘no’ or take away simply because He can. For every ‘no’ there is a reason. Like I tell my kids- I don’t ask them to do/not to do things for nothing. There is always a purpose! Sometimes it’s to their benefit, and sometimes it’s to protect the interest of others. God sees the whole picture; so far beyond what we could even imagine. He knows every detail and all that is to come. Even in our doubt or disappointment, let’s choose to trust His ‘no’s’.

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can.”

‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:11-12‬ ‭NLT‬‬

18 thoughts on “The Season of ‘No’

  1. How like our loving Father to give us examples of His care for us. As much as toddlers do not understand the ways of the world, even more so do we not understand the ways of our Heavenly Father; and His love for us is immeasurable.

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  2. Reblogged this on Christianmommas and commented:
    Wonderful spiritual lesson by another Christian momma raising a toddler. My little one is only 9-month-old but I am already using the words, “Don’t” and “no”. One major take-away from this article is that God doesn’t keep things from us, He keeps them for us. This is why patience is important in our walk with God, parenting and doing life. Jess encourages us to accept the fact that those prayers we tag ‘unanswered’ or ‘NO’ from God is for our good. Personally, the beauty of every NO is that they challenge me to seek God’s best in every situation. Enjoy this short article and be blessed!

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  3. Jess, I love it! This is so true!! I love how you tell it, too. I have some grandchildren at that age level, and so I identify with what you are talking about. What a great way, too, to explain God’s love and compassion for us and why he has to tell us “No,” too, sometimes.

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