What’s In It For Me?

What’s In It For Me?

“I can fit in that closet, and maybe I can fit a comfy chair in there, too.. and snacks….”

“If I shower for ten minutes, then today I’ll have had exactly……. ten minutes of quiet time.”

“Maybe I can fashion a mannequin to look like me, stand it up in the kitchen, and sneak away to take a break somewhere…..”

These are some of the bizarre and unfiltered thoughts of a stay-at-home mom. I mean I don’t know WHICH stay-at-home mom.. Just, you know, what I’m GUESSING a stay-at-home mom might think….


We’ve all been there. I have worked a couple high stress and big responsibility jobs in my adult life, and can I just say- raising kids is the hardest of all.

There. I said it.

Being at home with my kids means that I am on call every hour of every day and night. There are no lunch breaks, no vacations, there is not even the luxury of clocking out at the end of the day. My ears are constantly perked up for the sound of my name. I am responsible for on the spot problem solving, disciplinary action, cooking, cleaning, cuddling, re-cleaning all the things I cleaned five minutes ago, transportation, and so much more. It brings immeasurable joy to my heart, but oh at the end of those hard days- the really hard ones- there are moments I truly wonder, ‘what do we really get for all our hard work? What’s in it for me?’

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How grateful I am then for this reminder in Ecclesiastes:

“What do people really get for all their hard work? I have seen the burden God has placed on us all. Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can. And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.”

‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:9-13‬ ‭NLT‬‬

We get to enjoy the fruits of our labor here on earth, and then one day we get a priceless and eternal vacation with God our Father. And really isn’t every toil, and trouble we go to in a day just wrapped around a treasure; a blessing God has given us?

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Our work is not just a service to our family, or boss, or community. It is a way to serve God, to grow His kingdom, and to glorify His name. If we have the right attitude it’s an act of gratitude and love and a way to give back to God as thanks for what He’s given us. And while we work, things are happening. God is using our actions as seeds planted in the soil. He is growing new and great things from every word we speak and job we do, though we may not see it in the moment or by the end of our lifetime.

God has indeed made everything beautiful in its own time, so what a blessing it is to have eyes that see goodness in even the struggles. I mean, when we’re old and weary won’t we look back and long for the days when we had the ability to jump up from our seat and chase the children or mop the floors? And when our kids are grown, won’t we look back and see the beauty we witnessed in watching them grow? Won’t we long to hear our names called at bedtime for one more hug or favor?

God put us on this earth with much work ahead of us. But even so, there is so much beauty in the ability to complete what’s asked of us, and in sharing our life’s work with the ones we love. With each task He grants us the fruits of our labors whether it be a clean house, a full belly, paid bills, or a happy child.

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Lord, may we never grow tired of doing the work before us! Please give us eyes to see the beauty in our work and enjoy the fruits of it. Thank you for the ability we each have to complete the tasks before us. May we be your hands and feet in this world. We love you! Amen.

12 thoughts on “What’s In It For Me?

  1. Awesome post with so many good tidbits! I love how you said that the work we do can be an expression of love and gratitude for the blessings God has given us. I also love how you said that while we work, God is using us to plant seeds, whether we see it or not.

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  2. I lead a busy life (though I’m quite confident I’m not as busy as a mom would be!) and this is something I have to be constantly reminded of. Doing my work as an expression of love for God and remembering that my work is not in vain in the Lord. Thank you for reminding me and all of us of this today!

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  3. I was a stay-at-home mom for about 25 years, but I was most always doing volunteer work at the schools or with the scouts or in the community or in my local church fellowship, too. Then, for about 5 years I tried working full-time, but it just didn’t work out for me. Then, I went back to school for another 4 years, and then the Lord called me to this ministry full-time.

    Anyway, I empathize and I rejoice with you in where you are right now. Yes, they are tiring days, and you don’t get much alone time. But, they are rewarding days, as well. I believe you have the right perspective, and that is very good! I really loved what you shared here. I especially loved your prayer at the end. It speaks to my heart, as well, even though I am gray-haired and nearly 70, and I now have lots of alone time, if I want it, which is a blessing since the Lord has me writing every day.

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    1. It’s encouraging to hear your perspective on this, Sue and I so appreciate you sharing! I try to remember too that these times won’t last forever and that’s both a relief and all the more reason to cherish them, too. Praying God blesses you in this season of life ☺️

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  4. TRUTH! I struggle sometimes with feeling validated. With desiring to know what I am doing is producing something. And patience is key. Like you said, God knows what is happening. Sometimes I see the beautiful beginning of the Lord doing something, and I’m already, sadly, stuck on desiring the end result. Thanks for this 🙂

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